This is a story of a small countryside village from Rajasthan. A family of farmers and soldiers or army officers, where there is all the freedom for education and career choices available to the girls born or being part of the family after marriage but those coming here after marriage were not free from keeping veil when they are here in my village in front of the elderly people. Today I am happy to declare the long due step taken by my family elders that they are free from veil as well.
This is a proud moment for me and my Father, because i wanted this since the day one of my life and my father was fighting for this since last 40 years. Baba said ‘No to Veil’ even before his own marriage. My mother was free from it, but not my aunts or sister-in-laws. But two days back my eldest uncle has agreed with my Baba that now-onwards, all my aunts and sister-in-laws will be free from this ridiculous tradition and they are free to wear the dresses of their choice and live their lives the way they want to and the entire family will support them in their efforts as before.
The freedom to get education and pursue the career of their choice was always there for us and for our sister-in-laws, since my parents have struggled for that way back and succeeded. And my Mother’s hard work had proved their decision right. But now we, as a family, have one more struggle and came out strongly against this one more ridiculous restriction on my sister-in-laws.
I am also proud of the fact that this is the second time when my family has set an example by leaving an unnecessary tradition and moving ahead of that. First time it was back in the year 2006, when my beloved Grandmother passed away and my father and all my Uncles- aunts and brothers and sister-in-laws have decided no to go for Mrityu Bhoja, i.e. calling the entire village and relatives to have food and give them gifts, that is too burdensome for a poor person and even horrifying when s/he is already in the grief of loosing his/her loved ones.
No need to mention that these are so simple things for people like me or you, since we have seen the world out of it and this all is unnecessary burden for us to be carried on but it is really hard to move out of it for those who are still living in the same environment, as it is still very hard to digest the fact for my in-laws and even for my highly educated husband that as a daughter -in – law I do not put a veil. Though there is no doubt that they all love me the most for being simple and educated and support me everywhere e I need them, but this was a toughest task, though they have not asked me to do that verbally but it was strange to accept. I am a person who has been fighting against this and now if I do that then what is the point of my life long struggle, to my Mother-in-law came ahead to support me and I am really lucky to have her that even after being an illiterate women from a small village she is so understanding that I am really lucky to have her by my side. These are things not to be discussed on the public platform but I want to show the struggle our village people are still going through and how they are gradually coming out of all these burdens.
I am proud of both my families (my parental and in-laws) who are coming out of such unnecessary burdens gradually.
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