Is it arrogance or fear?

I have seen many males (not all are the same of-course, as I accept that there was one who gave me chance to get educated, understand and to speak up) around me who are too arrogant to imagine. I was thinking this for long time and then i started observing their behaviour and habits and statements.

For me it is more visible these days, in the era when it should get reduced, with education and the global connection. Though there may be three things in this case, one that I am observing more closely in recent couple of years, or two, that I am having broader contacts now and more analytical powers and three that it is actually more increasing these days.

Anyways, I just want to listen to my readers’ opinions and want to share my observation here, what i learnt, in a decade long period, is that they are soooo arrogant either in frustration (that is due to the unnecessary burden of proving themselves superior to females or attractive or popular among girls or to the society but they have failed in this) or they are unrealistically jealous of the other two genders and any step ahead by them makes them fear of loosing their position (which they imagine that they are a superior gender) or threat to their ego. And another popular reason I could see was the fear of threat to the rule of male chauvinism and to keep their ego up they think they have right to punish girls and the reality is in front of you, there are so many big incidents in India or in the world at large where females have been victims of war, because they need to release their frustration, and the females of their group or the opposite group are easy targets to them, likewise there are a large number of true domestic violence cases go unreported (though the false ones come up many times) and that is because our society have taught both of us that He is your God and you are his Servant Lakshmi (a goddess of money), means you are a piece of decoration and we can use you like money as we are owners or have possession of you.

And then comes the day when some good people give their daughters opportunity to go ahead and they start speaking against the wrong and crimes then these people who made her a goddess see a threat to their ego again and they try to threat us back by showing this fear as arrogance. They are totally lost and empty or frustrated from within, therefore if they see a girl laughing they raise questions on her character, if they see her working they equate her with the mistresses, if they wear modern cloths they say they are cheaters or bad girls or what not, even some slip down to the extent of telling their rates, but I have no idea how to make these guys understand that if they are going ahead it is none of your business at the first hand and on the other they are claiming their rights and no threat to you unless you are not harming them, and if luckily any of then is your wife then you must be proud and support her rather than being arrogant. It doesn’t work anymore, man!! They are now able to walk on their feet and be independent, they do not even need your shoulder to cry on, because they know that those who give tears are not to be relied on, so please leave your false pride and lets walk hand in hand towards a better future together, since we make each other complete together only, as the nature has blessed us to be one soul. So just talk to them and they are best healers of your frustration or ego and you will not feel any threat once you understand them, do not go by the jokes, they are simplest people to be understood.

Copyright © Rachana Dhaka

Published by Rachana Dhaka

I am a law student, a resilient defender of Human Rights, a nomad who loves to know about different cultures and connect them for the better future of mankind and loves to talk to people through poetry or with some write ups. And best of all i love to motivate people and spread happiness around :)

8 thoughts on “Is it arrogance or fear?

  1. ◇ -Diamond Hard – ◇

    ◇ It’s “fear” EveryOne because males are terrified of their moms; and gets even worse when their partner derides them for being a ‘mommys boy’…ergo, the problem isn’t “men”; the problem is whether or not Wife, Mother-In-Law and Father-In-Law Get On…there are many couples who abandon family in order to preserve their relationship and/or marriage; pretty fucked up don’cha’ya THINK!!! EveryOne 🤔 ?

    ◇ – Diamond Hard – ◇


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  2. In India it would seem that this particular river of inequality runs very deep. It is my belief that the relationship between a man and a woman is often a reflection of the relationship/s they’ve witnessed when growing up. We all become infected by the limiting (cultural or personal) beliefs of our parents. It’s only when young people such as yourself – who recognise injustice and inequality – show the courage to stand up and talk. Well said.

    It is also my belief that true love is built on the firm foundation of empowerment. In other words, the question: How can I empower my partner today? is a constant in my mind. Of course this only works provided my partner understands this kind of love and bases her behaviour on the same question.

    How can we empower each other today? Is also a valuable question and let’s hope our words have helped someone, somewhere, today. x

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