Generally we see that whether knowingly or unknowingly the father is considered the owner of the family and we see nothing wrong in it. What I feel is that there is nothing wrong if the father and mother both are considered owner since they own the house and give birth to the kids together, none of them alone has the potential to do that. Or there is nothing wrong I find if he is said to be king and she is queen but I have problem if he is said to be owning the mother as well, since she is not the property or a thing who can be owned.
Also, want to share that why do I want to talk about this topic because I have usually noticed that those sons who have seen violence being done against their mothers by their fathers are more prone to be violent against their wives.
Therefore we need not go with the flow as at times our subconscious mind leads us wrong too, if we have seen torture being committed on ourselves or to our near and dear ones, we are more prone to be harmful either to ourselves to towards our loved ones, therefore I believe and request you too that we need to check our behaviour at times if someone asks us to do that. And here we need to revise our early life.
Because the girl coming with you, while leaving her entire family does not need your anger rather she needs to be loved by you to be happy and also to meet your expectations. Just because you had seen your father beating your mother does nit give you license to beat your wife or just because your uncle has told you that if you talk to your wife she may ditch you one day, does not give you right to use her body and stop talking to her, she is not a body Mr, she has submitted herself to you not to be used as as a piece of flash rather she is there to walk along with you to support you in need and to seek your support, you both are made to share your secrets with each other and reduce your burden, if any, and be one in soul. So please let your ego go and move your steps towards your wife and respect her and be with her as a life partner.
Please forget being violent with her otherwise tomorrow your kids will do the same with you as well as with their wives. Teach them how to love the world and how to love your partner and how to spread love in every situation, this will help you as well as them to succeed in life and this will be a great lesson from you to the coming generations.
Dear men, you are human beings too, you also have feelings and therefore you can also cry, have fears, or shortcomings, please share your feelings and accept your mistakes as no human is perfect, we all can make mistakes, if you are not able to do all this and consider your self as the bravest man of the world, this is the most foolish thing you ever do, so please take it easy and go ahead, believe me, you will really feel better and happier. And it is not bad to share your weakness or have shortcomings.
So if we actually want to give our kids a better world then we will have to actually show them how to love and not how to try to dominate.
Also, I want to mention here that at times there are some females as well who try to dominate their innocent husbands and show that they are superior or they are promoting feminism, dear women this is not a form of feminism rather this is also the same sickness which we do not want so please you also take care that we need to spread equality and love rather than replacing patriarchy with matriarchy, as then it will be the same situation again.
So, if you really want to see your generations grow up peacefully then please show them how not to raise voice on your partner and how to be peaceful and full of love no hatred no competition of showing off of superiority within the family.
All the best!!
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